Friday, October 27, 2017

“I’m Sorry, You Are No Longer Welcome Here,” Part 2

Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a German Lutheran pastor and theologian. He was also a participant in the German Resistance movement against Nazism, a founding member of the Confessing Church. His involvement in plans by members of the Abwehr (the German Military Intelligence Office) to assassinate Adolf Hitler resulted in his arrest in April 1943 and his subsequent execution by hanging in April 1945, shortly before the war's end. His view of Christianity's role in the secular world has become very influential.

He wrote the following on church discipline.  It is a classic:

“Reproof is unavoidable. God’s Word demands it when a brother falls into open sin. The practice of discipline in the congregation begins in the smallest circles. Where defection from God’s Word in doctrine or life imperils the family fellowship and with it the whole congregation, the word of admonition and rebuke must be ventured. Nothing can be more cruel than the tenderness that consigns another to his sin. Nothing can be more compassionate than the severe rebuke that calls a brother back from the path of sin. It is a ministry of mercy, an ultimate offer of genuine fellowship, when we allow nothing but God’s Word to stand between us, judging and succoring. Then it is not we who are judging; God alone judges, and God’s judgment is helpful and healing. Ultimately, we have no charge but to serve our brother, never to set ourselves above him, and we serve him even when we must speak the judging and dividing Word of God to him, even when, in obedience to God, we must break off fellowship with him. We must know that it is not our human love which makes us loyal to the other person, but God’s love which breaks its way through to him only through judgment. Just because God’s Word judges, it serves the person. He who accepts the ministry of God’s judgment is helped.” 

In Part 1, we examined what Paul said concerning a man who was sleeping with his stepmother in 1 Corinthians 5. Now let’s go to another passage in which Paul deals with those who are lazy found in 2 Thessalonians 3. 

Here is the context.  In the Thessalonian church, there were some who were lazy and got into other people’s business (v. 11).  Paul referred to this as an “undisciplined life, doing no work at all, but acting like busybodies.”  Here Paul is using a play on words and is actually saying, “Some that are not busy in their own business (they have no employment), but they are over-busy in other people’s business” (i.e nosy).    

So what is Paul’s solution as to what ought to be done with such people?

First, “if anyone will not work, neither let him eat” (v. 10).

Second, “do not associate with him so that he may be put to shame” (v. 14). 

Sounds sort of like what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 5 concerning the man who was sleeping with his stepmom.  Sort of, but not quite.

Here are some observations we need to bear in mind:

First, immorality such as sleeping with one’s stepmother and laziness are both considered sins and have as an outcome “dissociation” as a means of disciplining the sinner.   

Now we’re going from one side of the extreme to the other. Sleeping with your stepmother is an extreme form of sin. Laziness is not as extreme. Yet both are handled in virtually the same way – disassociation!

Now remember, this is only after several attempts have been made to try to counsel and restore the person in question. The Bible does not encourage throwing out anyone upon the first instance of their guilt. When a brother or sister sins, members of the church who have such knowledge go to the person in private and prayerfully seek to help the person back home into the fellowship with God and those whom have been offended.   It is only after multiple attempts have been made unsuccessfully, that it leads to the offender being asked to leave or disassociation.

Second, this form of church discipline is not to be done in a general manner, but specific. Note that Paul says in verse 14, “take special note of that man.” What does he mean?

Name him. 
Point him out.
Expose him.
Stop associating with him

Why? That he (only the offender) will be put to shame (v. 14b).

“Pastor Rich, that is so cruel!”

You know what cruel is?  Watch this. Follow Paul’s thoughts on this.

v. 15: “And do not regard him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.”

Now watch – Paul says, “When you name the person” (point out the offender), and when you tell him, “you refuse to work, then you don’t eat” (i.e. enjoy certain privileges that come from working), and you “do not associate with him,” so as to “put him to shame,” you are treating him or her like a family member!

This would imply that if you refuse to do these things, then you are no longer treating the offender as a brother (a member of your spiritual Ohana), but as an enemy.  

You see, we got things backwards. We think, “Oh, we need to embrace them and their sin, show love and forgiveness, and do all we can not to make them feel shame and not part of our group.” According to Paul, that is treating him like an ENEMY!  However, to treat such a person like a brother, you exercise tough love which embraces the truth and stop associating with him so as to put him to shame (make him feel rotten!).  God will use such things as the means to bring conviction and restoration.

In other words, we often times thwart the work of God in the lives of sinning saints by getting in the way. For heaven sake, get your feelings and yourself out of the way of God doing what He does best. Do you think that you know more than God knows? Do you think you have a better handle on how to bring about restoration to a sinning saint more than God is able? Do you think that God needs your help? You are often times simply in the way and by being the way, you are making matters worse! Your feelings are dictating what you consider to be right rather than the knowledge of God’s word that clearly spells out what we ought to do.

Third, in 1 Corinthians 5 we have excommunication.  Paul says to remove the person from your midst (v. 13) and consider him to be a “so-called brother” (v. 11).  This is another way of saying, “possibly a Christian, but one whose salvation is in doubt.”  This person who is engaged in a immoral sin is to be removed.

But with the Thessalonians, all we have is person who is lazy.  Don’t kick him out of the fellowship.  Just point him out and his sin, disassociate with him, and put him to shame. 

“But what if he leaves?”  Then let him leave. He is in everyone else’s poi.  Leaving may be a good thing in order to accomplish a bigger blessing – His restoration. The primary thing is to follow the Bible and get out of the way.


End of Part 2

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