Monday, April 29, 2019

Covetousness - The Silent Killer of Relationships, Part 1


The other day I saw a sign that pointed upstairs where there were more items to behold, and the sign said, "More This Way."

Sometimes more is not enough. Sometimes more "this way" is pointed in the wrong direction. And sometimes, God does not want us to have more of the things in this life. He wants us to have more of Him. When we do not want more of God, but more of what our flesh desires, then we are entering the zone of covetousness.

What is covetousness?  Allow me to introduce a passage that I will be using.

Do you want to be truly rich? You already are if you are happy and good. After all, we didn’t bring any money with us when we came into the world, and we can’t carry away a single penny when we die. So we should be well satisfied without money if we have enough food and clothing. But people who long to be rich soon begin to do all kinds of wrong things to get money, things that hurt them and make them evil-minded and finally send them to hell itself. 10 For the love of money is the first step toward all kinds of sin. Some people have even turned away from God because of their love for it, and as a result have pierced themselves with many sorrows. 11 O Timothy, you are God’s man. Run from all these evil things, and work instead at what is right and good, learning to trust him and love others and to be patient and gentle. 12 Fight on for God. Hold tightly to the eternal life that God has given you and that you have confessed with such a ringing confession before many witnesses. (1 Tim. 6:6-12).

I think this text in 1 Timothy 6 makes it clear what covetousness is, and that the battle against it is a battle against unbelief, or a fight for faith in the promises of God.  Because battling covetousness is a fight and involves unbelief to make it appetizing, and because unbelief is so often subtle and it is the one sin that sends people to hell, I refer to covetousness as a silent killer of relationships.  

The word “covetousness” isn’t used in 1 Timothy 6:6-12, but the reality is what this text is all about. When verse 5b says that some are treating godliness as a means of gain, Paul responds in verse 6 that “There is great gain in godliness with contentment.” This gives us the key to the definition of covetousness.

Definition:  Covetousness is desiring something so much that you lose your contentment in God. “There is great gain in godliness with contentment.”
The opposite of covetousness is contentment in God. When contentment in God decreases, covetousness for gain increases. That’s why Paul says in Colossians 3:5 that covetousness is idolatry. “Put to death what is earthly in you: immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness which is idolatry.” It’s idolatry because the contentment that the heart should be getting from God, it starts to get from someone or something else.

So, covetousness is desiring something so much that you lose your contentment in God. Or, we can also put it this way: Covetousness is losing your contentment in God so that you start to seek it elsewhere.

Have you ever considered that the Ten Commandments begin and end with virtually the same commandment? “You shall have no other gods before me” (Exodus 20:3) and “You shall not covet” (Exodus 20:17) are almost equivalent commands. Coveting is desiring anything other than God in a way that betrays a loss of contentment and satisfaction in Him. Covetousness is a heart divided between two gods. So Paul calls it idolatry.

Now, what Paul is doing in 1 Timothy 6:6–12 is trying to persuade people not to be covetous. But let’s be real sure that we see how Paul understands this battle against covetousness. He gives his reasons for not being covetous in verses 6–10, and then in verse 11 he tells Timothy to shun or to flee all that — to flee the love of money and the desire to be rich, namely, covetousness.

And he says in verse 11b, instead of giving in to covetousness, “aim at righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.” Then out of that list he picks “faith” for special attention, and says (in verse 12), “Fight the good fight of the faith.” In essence, then, he says, “Flee covetousness . . . fight the good fight of faith.”

In other words, the fight against covetousness is nothing other than the fight of faith. This is one of the clearest proofs that the way to obey the Ten Commandments (which the tenth is, “Thou shall not covet”) is by faith. It’s also proof that covetousness is a state of unbelief.

Jesus said in John 6:35, “I am the bread of life; he who comes to me shall never hunger, and he who believes in me shall never thirst.” In other words, what it means to believe in Jesus is to experience him as the satisfaction of my soul’s thirst and my heart’s hunger. Faith is the experience of contentment in Jesus. The fight of faith is the fight to keep your heart contented in Christ — to really believe, and keep on believing, that he will meet every need and satisfy every longing.

So covetousness, then, is exactly the opposite of faith. It’s the loss of contentment in Christ, so that we start to crave other things to satisfy the longings of our heart. There’s no mistaking, then, that the battle against covetousness is a battle against unbelief, and a battle for faith. Whenever we sense the slightest rise of covetousness in our hearts, we must turn on it and fight it with all our might with the weapons of faith.

End of Part 1

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